Often associated with the climax of female sexuality, vaginal penetration is the subject of many preconceived ideas. Here's the lowdown. 

 

What is vaginal penetration? 

Vaginal penetration, in the most common sense of the term, is the penetration of the vagina by a penis (in the collective imagination). This act is often equated with sexual intercourse, and again, in the collective unconscious, marks the loss of virginity.

Today, with the discovery of all forms of sexuality, the affirmation of the importance of women's pleasure in sexual intercourse and the democratization of masturbation, its place is often called into question. For example, instead of talking about the loss of virginity, we prefer to talk about multiple "first times", because sexual intercourse can just as easily be advanced caressing as oral sex or penetration. There's no hierarchy when it comes to pleasure! So, yes, vaginal penetration is cool (or even very cool for many people), but there's no one way of doing it, nor is it an end in itself. 

The different types of vaginal penetration 

Vaginal penetration can be achieved in different ways: 

• With a penis With a penis: this may seem the most obvious, but it's not the only way to (get) penetrated.

• With your fingers With your fingers: your own or your partner's, it's also fun and shouldn't be shunned - on the contrary.

• With a toy If you want to explore a little further and (re)discover your erogenous zones. Use solo or with a partner to spice up your lovemaking.

Preconceived ideas about penetration 

• Sexual intercourse necessarily requires penetration false. There are tons of ways to get off: alone or with a partner, with sex, fingers, tongue... the possibilities are endless.
  For example, don't miss the testimony of this couple who rediscover their sexuality and intimacy through mutual masturbation.

• There is such a thing as vaginal orgasm false. In reality, orgasm always comes from stimulation of the clitoris, but this can be internal or external. In the case of penetration, it's the internal part that's stimulated. The clitoris is the only organ in a woman's body entirely dedicated to pleasure. It has over 8,000 nerve endings, so there are many ways to stimulate it!

• It's normal to feel pain during intercourse: obviously, this is (very) not true. Pain during intercourse may be the sign of a gynaecological problem that needs to be detected: polycystic ovary syndrome, endometriosis, vaginismus... Don't hesitate to check with your gynaecologist to rule out these possibilities. Another cause of pain is insufficient lubrication, so don't hesitate to make foreplay last longer and always have the lubricant to hand. Which brings us to our next misconception. 

• Lack of lubrication means lack of excitement: not true. We leave our egos at the door when we decide to do something good for each other. Lubricant is a very useful thing that will (literally) make intercourse smoother. A lack of lubrication doesn't mean that you don't want to, so just relax and take out the tube. Read this testimonial, which gives the real good reasons for using it, and you'll be convinced. 

• In the case of peno-vaginal intercourse, going back and forth is enough to have an orgasm. False. In reality, it's not that simple. In fact, it's a far cry from the old porn scenario where the gentleman penetrates the lady and after 3 minutes she's ecstatic. While some women will be able to reach orgasm easily and frequently with penetration alone, for others (the vast majority, as shown by a study published in the journal Socioaffective Neuroscience & Psychology*), that's not enough. You'll have to be a little more creative, try out positions with varying degrees of depth, experiment with sex toys, or practice external stimulation at the same time, to achieve the famous mixed orgasm.
  The reality for many people is that internal orgasm takes time to find and develop. And sometimes, no matter how much energy and methodology you put into it, everyone's morphology is different and it's quite common not to orgasm. As we've already said, it's not a goal in itself. If it happens, that's cool, but if it doesn't, as long as you're enjoying it, that's really the most important thing.

If it's a subject that interests you or that you'd like to "delve into", this research may prove fruitful. This was the case for Sarah, 31, who had never really felt pleasure through vaginal penetration with a partner. She even wondered if it wasn't the lie of the century: could you really get off that way? But not being a fatalist, she decided to take matters into her own hands. So she placed an order with Team Blush, and what better way to explore than with the Arc de Dame. She does a little research to understand the areas to be conquered. She had to go over it several times, get into a mood of total excitement and stimulate the deep spots to finally experience the pleasure of penetration. As a little bonus, this solo exploration enabled her to take pleasure with her partner afterwards. In the end, for her, it was more a question of teaching her brain that this area was also a source of pleasure. To read Sarah's full testimonial, click here.  

The different vaginal pleasure points 

• G Zone It's that famous spot that's been the talk of the town. According to the latest scientific studies, it does exist - it's even more of a zone than a spot, and in concrete terms it's a rough mucous membrane located 4-5 cm from the entrance to the vagina.

• R-zone This is a pleasure zone located between the anus and vagina. It stimulates the rectum.

• Deep spots These are the deep erogenous zones of the vagina, located around the cervix and stimulated by penetration of a penis or internal sextoy.

The Bouche Bée team's selection: the Inside box set

Discover our perfectly designed set for conquering your erogenous zones through vaginal penetration, alone or with a partner. It consists of:

• L'Arc, Dame L'Arc, Dame: this vibrator is designed to explore the vagina's erogenous zones, such as the G-zone. Its flexible head and small ridge provide precise and complete stimulation, both internally and externally. Waterproof, it can be used in the shower and features 5 different modes and 5 different powers, for your greatest pleasure.
• Lube, Bouche Bée Bouche Bée: 100% natural, water-based lubricant. Hyaluronic acid, recognized for its moisturizing, healing and restorative action, plus absolute comfort during intercourse.
• Orgasmic gel, YFL 100% natural, pH-balanced formula. One or two drops are all it takes to awaken your vulva, with a warm tingling sensation that stirs the nerve endings and increases your pleasure.

Nina Ristori 

Sources : 

• KOEDT Anne, " The myth of vaginal orgasm ", Nouvelles Questions Féministes2010/3 (Vol. 29), pp. 14-22. DOI : 10.3917/nqf.293.0014.
• Kontula O, Miettinen A. Determinants of female sexual orgasms. Socioaffect Neurosci Psychol. 2016 Oct 25;6:31624. doi: 10.3402/snp.v6.31624. PMID: 27799078; PMCID: PMC5087699